Holy are you God – Holy is your name – You are my hearts desire
You are worthy to be praised, all the time, no matter our circumstances.
I want to be wholly and purely devoted to you, having no idols.
My heart and eyes are fixed on you.
This weeks study (chapters 6 &7) of “The Excellent Wife” hit me hard. We discussed false gods/idols as well as the desires of our heart. Below is a recap of this weeks study that affected me the most.
The desire of my heart is to think and feel like the psalmist in 119. As Martha Peace from “The Excellent Wife” stated, ” He desired, sought after, and longed after God with all his heat.
Could you imagine how much less fear, anxiety and frustration would be in our lives if we lived like this psalmist. If we actually set our eyes on the things above and not on our hearts desires, but Gods! “God will put the desires in your heart that He wants to be there.” Martha Peace
God Wants to be Your Hearts Desire
To me this means that God wants to be our desire. He wants us to be happy, he wants us to receive the blessings he has in store. We just have to pray diligently, humbly and whole heartily seeking His will not ours!
I can think of many “things” in my life that take the place of God on a daily basis. Replacing the desire that God has for me with my own idols and own desires only leads to pain. Here are a few idols/wrong desires I can think of that displace the Lord Jesus Christ as my deepest affection and longing.
- Physical appearance
- Having a pain-free life
- Material things
- Being in Control
- Having my needs met
You can easily tell the things that are idols in your life because those are the things you spend the most time doing, speaking about, thinking about, trusting in and spending your money on. Martha Peace goes on to say that when we idol anything or anyone other than Jesus and things do not turn out as we desire, we begin to get frustrated, angry and anxious. Ultimately you become so desperate you become willing to do anything, including sin.
Because of these false gods or idols in our hearts sin begins to erode our heart, painful emotions increase and we begin to seek false saviors/refuges. For me these look like…
- Shopping sprees
- Clinging to people for comfort
- Withdrawing (if not clinging to people)
Pursuing false saviors and finding refuge in anyone other that Jesus only makes things worse. We may temporarily find comfort or relief from our pain but eventually those false saviors/refuges let us down and can even cause some serious consequences.
I truly believe that this chapter affected me so much because I am often conflicted between my desires and the desires God has for me. God wants my undivided attention as well as commitment to serving him in everything I do.
Who is your hearts desire?
My husband ends up being a lot of my desire, which is Godly, until I begin replacing Jesus with my husband. Once I’ve done that I get disappointed because my husband can’t fulfill my desires as Christ can. He can’t fill the longing and deepest desires of my heart.
Once I stop putting the pressure on my husband to be my “savior” or “refuge” or “deepest desire” then I can focus on glorifying God. We all want to be romanticized , more help around the house and to feel appreciated, but is that what it’s really about? I don’t believe so. It’s about glorifying God as a wife. It’s about serving and honoring our husbands even if we aren’t getting anything in return. More times than not, when we begin to serve our husbands with a grateful heart and not wanting anything in return they usually begin to open up and fulfill our needs as a wives and mothers. But even if they don’t, we won’t be too disappointed because our refuge is in Jesus.
As you can probably see Martha is pretty cut and dry in this bible study. She makes no apologies for saying as it is and the wonderful thing is, everything she says is backed by the bible. I really hope you will join me in this study! It’s never to late to begin a journey on becoming an excellent wife.
Don’t waste another minute. Go get your copy of the book The Excellent Wife and make sure you get the The Excellent Wife: Study Guide as well to get the most from the study. Glorifying God with your marriage is one of the greatest ways to set your marriage up for success.
Concluding, is your deepest desire and longing for Jesus? Or do you see yourself spending more time on other things or people? I would love to hear from you. Leave a comment with your answers, questions or thoughts!!
Thanks for stopping by and sharing this time with me